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自己有負思想的時候也不想見人. 除非對方能夠了解而且夠堅強的應付. 要不然要給自己空間去思考一下. 不明白的人只會讓自己覺得自己是壞. 每一個人都有底弱的時候﹐所以不能就這樣判定. 被推到一個角落思想只會變成更加負. 這我也體驗過了. 生活壓力太大﹐還沒想通就被人當是壞人. 沒受過壓力的人對事的看法很簡單, 只有好或者不好. 不在乎什麼理由. 這是因為他們比自己經歷少, 所以不能夠了解. 在網路找到這個, 怎麼應付有負思想的人...


How to Deal With Negative People in Your Life

http://www.ehow.com/how_2163314_deal-negative-people-life.html

Step 1

With individual people you should try to find out the source of the negativity. Is it a particular situation, for instance you're thinking of doing something moderately risky such as staring a business or changing careers, are they reacting less positively than what you expected? In that case, they may just be concerned about you. You may need to reassure them and listen to their concerns. That doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they're saying, but it will usually stop the negative comments or attitude. Then there's the situation of people who can't seem to be happy no matter what they do or you do. They simply have a negative attitude. You can't change them--only they can do that. The best thing you can do for yourself is avoid them if possible until you're strong enough to handle them. If it's a situation where you can't, keep reading for more ideas.


Step 2

The problem is as people, we can sometimes be influenced whether we like it or not. If you have a negative job, often you can't just turn off the effects when you leave the building and go home. There is carry-over. To the extent you can, limit your negative influences and increase your positive ones. Look at the situation like you would finances--you want to be more in the positive than in the negative if you want to be successful. Positive influences can come in the form of supportive friends and family, positive books, and to a certain extent positive forms of media such as movies, television, CDs, etc.


Step 3

You do however need to look at negative influences in media as well--just because the person isn't physically in your house doesn't mean they don't influence you. If there are shows that you watch that leave you feeling worse after watching them, that is not entertainment. I've even found some commercials to be emotionally draining. You need to regulate what you put into your brain as much as possible because that's going to either enhance or lessen the effect negative people have on you.


Step 4

Realize that become more resistant to negative people is a process. You have to practice patience and keeping your own attitude up. Sometimes you'll make a mistake, but that's okay as long as you learn from it. Becoming a positive person in people's lives has it's advantages as well. You'll find that if you are less negative yourself and catch yourself when you're about to be negative, more people tend to gravitate toward you and want to be your friend. It's because there's a deep need for more people like that in our culture. I hope these tips have been helpful toward you. Good luck and best wishes to you in life.